I was 22 when I asked myself this question. "How will my life be impacted by living with my mother’s toxic and self-destructive behavior for all these years? I have my mother's genes and that is not good news." I was afraid.
How many times have we blamed rebellious and lazy teens, as well as confrontational troublemakers, on bad genetic makeup? The answer is: too many times, and it's still going on today.
"Bad genes" are still believed to be the cause for the delinquency, lawlessness, and misbehavior of teens and young woman growing up in city streets.
It's not true, never was true, and never will be true.
Have you ever come across a piece of information that gave your life a 180-degree spin, shifting your views, beliefs, and perceptions and left you feeling relieved?
For this I give my thanks to Dr. Bruce Lipton, internationally respected and recognized leader in bridging science and spirit, stem cell biologist, and best-selling author of The Biology of Belief, which I have read more than once!
His research and findings shifted my life to a quality of life I never could have thought possible. Most importantly, I was able to forgive my mother for her self-destructive and irresponsible behavior with closure and finally let it go in peace.
Her mind was trapped in a tower of toxic and self-destructive beliefs, opinions, and views. Her relationships and quality of life reflected her distorted beliefs, impacting people close to her.
Her mind entertained an inner "conversation" with her negative views, which only reinforced her belief in the self-inflicted destructive decisions and choices she made all her life.
She deserved a wonderful life. She was very talented and gifted.
And that was a dichotomy. She was an enigma I had to resolve. I could not understand or reconcile how she could be so intelligent and gifted and completely self-destruct her life at the same time. Her behavior had serious repercussions.
The information in Dr. Lipton's best-selling book The Biology of Belief made perfect sense and answered questions that had been on my mind for many years. But her life was held captive, like a puppet attached to strings--strings that represented the chain of toxic chemistry released in her bloodstream by her distorted beliefs, temper tantrums, resentment, and judgment, creating never-ending trouble and drama.
Dr. Lipton's findings were a significant life-changer for me.
It took me a few years to wrap my mind around Dr. Lipton's findings because of the depth of anger and resentment that I had held onto for decades. Nevertheless, I knew Dr. Lipton was right. I do understand cellular biology.
The information in this article doesn't take my mother off the hook for the impact of her self-destructive behavior and the drama she created. However, the teachings of Dr. Lipton on the biology of beliefs brought me closure and true, heartfelt forgiveness.
It makes it easier to forgive--to forgive ourselves and them, and move on. Once I got it and believed Dr. Lipton's teaching, everything made sense. It all came together. All the loopholes closed.
My siblings have yet to understand this information, and their lives are a close replica of my mother's beliefs. The example of our family and others in similar living conditions is at the core of the reason why I am writing this article. And why Dr. Lipton's research and findings are important.
That is why Dr. Lipton's research and findings are important for many of us who ended up bruised and wounded from growing up in toxic environments. His research and findings are key to unlocking the doors of confusion and resentment, and healing once and for all.
Our Fate and Genetic Makeup
Genes have never played a role in determining our behavior and demeanor. In his article, The Wisdom of Your Cells, Dr. Lipton clarifies in laymen's terms the process of his discovery. I highly recommend you read this informative article.
Today, I understand that my behavior for many years, along with the bad choices I made and their consequences, had nothing to do with a genetic makeup. I understand what was at the root of impulsive choices and decisions I made. Of course, I also made great choices and decisions. However, my beliefs were in the driver seat of my life.
I get it. I was able to reverse it and completely change my life. Over time and as a result, like-minded people came into my life, along with synchronicities and great opportunities. I’ve been in a healthier environment ever since.
Dr. Bruce Lipton's information was the most important life-changer for me and certainly for other people, considering how many followers he has and how many books has written, conferences he has conducted, and webinars he has held.
Imagine what this information could do for open-minded and inquisitive young teen inmates! Yes, inmates with an inquisitive bent. They are out there and there are many of them.
Every cell of our body receives the chemistry triggered by how we feel, think, react, or take action. That chemistry makes its way to our brain, which runs our life on auto-pilot 95% of the time.
My personal belief is that we have evolved and these numbers are slightly higher.
I would bet we're 85% unaware and 15% aware. I believe we are heading in the right direction and awareness is increasing in people.
We Are a Community of Cells Shaped in a Human Form
We can create good chemistry or toxic chemistry. The more we understand this body biology, the more we will be able to take control of our lives.
Each one of us is a huge cluster of cells, a community of cells You Are a Community of 50 Trillion Living Cells. From the top of our head to the tip of our toes, each one of us is a community of cells shaped in a human form and made of anywhere between 37.2 and 50 trillion cells.
The latest scientific research in human biology and epigenetics (the study of changes in organisms caused by modification of gene expression rather than alteration of the genetic code itself) tells us that our beliefs, personal views, and perceptions are shaped by the environment we are immersed in.
Years of a life lived in family drama, toxic relationships, fear of the unknown, negative thinking, blame, and abuse end up compromising and dividing the cell. This creates and will never cease to trigger a wide array of health and nervous system problems for us.
Hard science is clearly supported by peer reviews, and I know you believe this. Biological parents' lengthy cigarette smoking and alcohol consumption--whether during pregnancy or not--create neurological in newborns (such as anxiety disorder, tics, low tolerance for stress, ADD, ADHD, OCD, only to name a few).
These neurological conditions are manageable when you know how to address them and implement in your lives what needs to be done besides SSRI medications as the only solution.
"The belief and perception of the environment control your biology." ~ Dr. Bruce Lipton
The Truth Will Set You Free
I was a female teen growing up next to an irresponsible mother who, at the time, had no concept of awareness or inner growth. I completely understand that.
The situation is not about judging or getting to who's to blame. It's about the baggage of lies, manipulations, distorted beliefs, lack of trust, emotional issues, and the toxic relationships we end up in as an outcome of being chemically conditioned.
We end up with baggage falling on us to be unpacked layer by layer. And for many who are trapped in a tower of baggage, it's never-ending.
The classic and redundant excuse, "They did the best they could," didn't do it for me. I knew there had to be more than that. I wanted to understand why at a level that went much deeper than their conditioning.
The only way I would feel a true heartfelt forgiveness was to get to the bottom of this, and I did.
Today, I have no doubt that my mother did the best she could. Bad toxic chemistry released in her blood from intense emotions was reinforcing her beliefs and behavior.
Medical drugs are chemistry and we all know what they do to our brain. A constant outburst of flaming emotions, anger, resentment, manipulation, and lies releases bad chemistry that goes to our brain and makes our body feel awful.
My mother's system of dysfunctional beliefs, understanding of her life, and processing of thoughts had caused all her cells to understand the only signals her emotions were sending.
Wake Up, Sleepers!
1. Our trillions of cells receive their information from our environment.
2. That environment triggers a chemical reaction in our bloodstream, going to our brain.
3. There are good chemicals: serotonin, endorphins, dopamine, oxytocin.
4. There are bad chemicals: adrenaline, norepinephrine, cortisol.
5. Chemistry dictates how we think and feel, the choices we make, and the actions we take, resulting in repetitive toxic relationships and discombobulated lives.
Can we change our mind and have new beliefs that create inspiring thoughts and result in a meaningful quality of life? Yes.
Can we reverse toxic mind conditioning and recondition our mind into a new one? Yes.
The question is, how bad do you really want it? Because the more you will invest in this transformation, the more you will harvest its plentiful crop.
As You Think So Shall You Be is real and more serious than just a quote, a meme, or something cool we drop into a conversation. Our health, quality of life, and the power to attract the best in all its ways, shapes, and forms either small or big completely depends on it.
What we chemically triggered, causing toxic conditioning, can be undone. We can trigger a conditioning of healthy beliefs and a life worth living.
What will be your choice?
LouiseGrogan Toxic Relationship Strategist
The views and opinions expressed in this article are those of the author and do not necessarily reflect the views and opinions of the readers.